Tuesday, January 30, 2007

活在當下

往往許多人在抉擇伴侶時,容易東想西想,不知所措,就是因為害怕一時做錯決定,看錯人,造成終生的遺憾。

諾貝爾文學獎得主蕭伯納說:「此時此刻在地球上,約有兩萬個人適合當你的人生伴侶,就看你先遇到哪一個, 如果在第二個理想伴侶出現之前,你已經跟前一個人發展出相知相惜、互相信賴的深層關係,那後者就會變成你的好朋友,但是若你跟前一個人沒有培養出深層關係,感情就容易動搖、變心,直到你與這些理想伴侶候選人的其中一位擁有穩固的深情,才是幸福的開始,漂泊的結束。

愛上一個人不需要靠努力,只需要靠「際遇」,是上天的安排,但是「持續地愛一個人」就要靠「努力」, 在愛情的經營中,順暢運轉的要素就是溝通、體諒、包容與自製 (面臨誘惑有所自製)。有許多人總是?

「際遇」所迷惑與苦惱,意念不停、慾念不斷、爭逐不散,而忘了培養經營感情的能力才是幸福的關鍵。

所以不要去追問到底誰才是我的Mr.Right,而是n問說在眼前的伴侶關係中,我能努力到什麼程度、成長到什麼程度,若沒有培養出經營幸福的能力,就算真的Mr.Right出現在你身邊,幸福依然會錯過的,而活在猶疑與遺憾當中, 這不就是許多「愛情虛無症」的遭遇與心態嗎?

若你此刻已有一位長久相伴的伴侶,不要再隨便三心二意地猶疑了,我們往往不易察覺感情中的一個陷阱,就是「近親生慢侮」,也就是經濟學中的鐵律「邊際效益遞減法則」,跟你在一起越久的人,就越容易麻木與忽視,而新鮮的「際遇」總是那麼動人可愛。

在感情對待中,難免有摩擦與無心的傷害,而且論得罪自己的次數累加起來最多的人,當然是跟我們在一起最久、最親近的人。而新歡呢,又還沒開始有得罪你的機會,再加上他的刻意討好,所以新歡怎麼看怎麼可愛,舊愛怎麼看怎麼討厭。但別忘了,新歡身上總是有不確定的未知數,舊愛身上就是有難得的熟悉感、確定感、信賴感。千萬不要隨便在偶然的「際遇」中迷失了自己,錯放了幸福溫暖的手。

所以蕭伯納的話,是要提醒情人不要太鑽牛角尖於尋覓那唯一,應該把精神用在學會經營幸福的能力上,同時也提醒我們「弱水三千隻取一瓢飲」若有幸遇到了難得的伴侶,就不要再三心二意了,因為我們永遠不知道一生何時會遇到兩萬個其中的幾個,所以要知福惜福、活在當下。

a great piece sent to me by Rita...


Thursday, January 25, 2007

timing? time out...

"timing is always important to a relationship...
actually i do understand why u hold off...
wish u were here!"

it's time out afterall......


Sunday, January 21, 2007

sleep don't weep - damien rice

sleep don't weep
my sweet love
your face it's all wet
and your day was rough
so do what you must do
to find yourself
wear another's shoe
or paint my shelves
there's times that i was broke
and you stood strong
i think i found a place
where i ..
sleep don't weep
my sweet love
your face it's all wet
'cause our days were rough
so do what you must do
to fill that hole
wear another's shoe
to comfort the sole
there's times that i was broke
and you stood strong
i think i found a place
where i feel i will..
sleep don't weep
my sweet love
my face it's all wet
'cause my day was rough
so do what you must do
to find yourself
wear another's shoe
or paint my shelves
there's times that i was broke
and you stood strong
i hope i find a place where i feel i belong
sleep don't weep
my sweet love
my face it's all wet
'cause my day was rough
don't weep
my sweet love
my face is all wet
'cause my days were rough


Thursday, January 18, 2007

WISDOM FOR LIFE

"Wisdom is supreme; therefore get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understand."

Many of us search long and hard to find the answers to life and how to live it. It can cost time, money, energy or even some unforgettable feeling, but if wisdom really is supreme, it is worth the cost.


Tuesday, January 16, 2007

西遊記大結局之仙履奇緣

曾經有一份真摰既愛情係我面前,我冇去珍惜,直至到失去後才後悔莫及。塵世間最痛苦既事情莫過於此。如果上天能夠俾我一次重新來過既機會,我會同個女仔講: “我愛你;如果要係嚟份愛加上一個期限,我希望係一萬年


Tuesday, January 9, 2007

Failure

"Failure is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently."
-- Henry Ford (1863-1947) American Industrialist

yes, this time...


Monday, January 8, 2007

roller coaster

life sure is like a roller coaster, ups and downs... just as you're going down, so fast, now you're up again...

but... when will it go down again?


Thursday, January 4, 2007

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WAHAHAAAHAHAHHAHHAHA!!!


biquT2 o2 m'i

yes indeed i am!! i just won't listen, ppl!!


Wednesday, January 3, 2007

new year, new start...

it's 2007! 2006 went by so fast, though packed with unforgettable events... new year, new start... it's afterall, a new chapter! just believe and you shall find your way. love, and you shall feel your heart. appreciate, and you shall realize your one.


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