"Don't listen to your spouse and do something else at the same time. Remember, quality time is giving someone your undivided attention. If you are watching, reading, or doing something else in which you are keenly interested and cannot turn from immediately, tell your spouse the truth. A positive approach might be, "I know you are trying to talk to me and I'm interested, but I want to give you my full attention. I can't do that right now, but if you will give me ten minutes to finish this, I'll sit down and listen to you." Most spouses will respect such a request.
-- The Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman
Kathy has been reading this book and so happened she needed a lot of attention tonight and she made me read this passage! Yes perfect timing! wahaha.
Showing posts with label thoughts. Show all posts
Showing posts with label thoughts. Show all posts
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
Tuesday, July 14, 2009
The Secret
Picked up "The Secret" last night, as recommended by different friends including Sachiko from Japan. This book came at the right time when I was having many thoughts about my future. First chapter of "The Secret" is about the law of attraction. Not attraction among humans, it's attraction among thoughts and reality/life. You think and you can. That sort of meanings. Think negative you'll end up with miseries, and think positive you'll succeed.
Keep reading.
Sunday, February 18, 2007
CNY!
it's CNY! happy all around... eating non-stop... meeting all family members... forgetting last year, forthlooking coming year... wearing new clothes, not to mention the new underwear...
new year, new rules, new regulations, new resolutions...
everything new... new starts, new ends...
btw, whey did i spend yesterday alone at home? it's a new way...
everybody don't understand, i hope you'll understand... but who'll ever truly understand anyway?
happy year of pig everyone!, who do or don't understand, it's still a new year for us, for me... happy is the way to go, happy is the ultimate goal!
new year, new rules, new regulations, new resolutions...
everything new... new starts, new ends...
btw, whey did i spend yesterday alone at home? it's a new way...
everybody don't understand, i hope you'll understand... but who'll ever truly understand anyway?
happy year of pig everyone!, who do or don't understand, it's still a new year for us, for me... happy is the way to go, happy is the ultimate goal!
Tuesday, January 30, 2007
活在當下
往往許多人在抉擇伴侶時，容易東想西想，不知所措，就是因為害怕一時做錯決定，看錯人，造成終生的遺憾。
諾貝爾文學獎得主蕭伯納說：「此時此刻在地球上，約有兩萬個人適合當你的人生伴侶，就看你先遇到哪一個， 如果在第二個理想伴侶出現之前，你已經跟前一個人發展出相知相惜、互相信賴的深層關係，那後者就會變成你的好朋友，但是若你跟前一個人沒有培養出深層關係，感情就容易動搖、變心，直到你與這些理想伴侶候選人的其中一位擁有穩固的深情，才是幸福的開始，漂泊的結束。
愛上一個人不需要靠努力，只需要靠「際遇」，是上天的安排，但是「持續地愛一個人」就要靠「努力」， 在愛情的經營中，順暢運轉的要素就是溝通、體諒、包容與自製 (面臨誘惑有所自製)。有許多人總是?
「際遇」所迷惑與苦惱，意念不停、慾念不斷、爭逐不散，而忘了培養經營感情的能力才是幸福的關鍵。
所以不要去追問到底誰才是我的Mr.Right，而是n問說在眼前的伴侶關係中，我能努力到什麼程度、成長到什麼程度，若沒有培養出經營幸福的能力，就算真的Mr.Right出現在你身邊，幸福依然會錯過的，而活在猶疑與遺憾當中， 這不就是許多「愛情虛無症」的遭遇與心態嗎？
若你此刻已有一位長久相伴的伴侶，不要再隨便三心二意地猶疑了，我們往往不易察覺感情中的一個陷阱，就是「近親生慢侮」，也就是經濟學中的鐵律「邊際效益遞減法則」，跟你在一起越久的人，就越容易麻木與忽視，而新鮮的「際遇」總是那麼動人可愛。
在感情對待中，難免有摩擦與無心的傷害，而且論得罪自己的次數累加起來最多的人，當然是跟我們在一起最久、最親近的人。而新歡呢，又還沒開始有得罪你的機會，再加上他的刻意討好，所以新歡怎麼看怎麼可愛，舊愛怎麼看怎麼討厭。但別忘了，新歡身上總是有不確定的未知數，舊愛身上就是有難得的熟悉感、確定感、信賴感。千萬不要隨便在偶然的「際遇」中迷失了自己，錯放了幸福溫暖的手。
所以蕭伯納的話，是要提醒情人不要太鑽牛角尖於尋覓那唯一，應該把精神用在學會經營幸福的能力上，同時也提醒我們「弱水三千隻取一瓢飲」若有幸遇到了難得的伴侶，就不要再三心二意了，因為我們永遠不知道一生何時會遇到兩萬個其中的幾個，所以要知福惜福、活在當下。
諾貝爾文學獎得主蕭伯納說：「此時此刻在地球上，約有兩萬個人適合當你的人生伴侶，就看你先遇到哪一個， 如果在第二個理想伴侶出現之前，你已經跟前一個人發展出相知相惜、互相信賴的深層關係，那後者就會變成你的好朋友，但是若你跟前一個人沒有培養出深層關係，感情就容易動搖、變心，直到你與這些理想伴侶候選人的其中一位擁有穩固的深情，才是幸福的開始，漂泊的結束。
愛上一個人不需要靠努力，只需要靠「際遇」，是上天的安排，但是「持續地愛一個人」就要靠「努力」， 在愛情的經營中，順暢運轉的要素就是溝通、體諒、包容與自製 (面臨誘惑有所自製)。有許多人總是?
「際遇」所迷惑與苦惱，意念不停、慾念不斷、爭逐不散，而忘了培養經營感情的能力才是幸福的關鍵。
所以不要去追問到底誰才是我的Mr.Right，而是n問說在眼前的伴侶關係中，我能努力到什麼程度、成長到什麼程度，若沒有培養出經營幸福的能力，就算真的Mr.Right出現在你身邊，幸福依然會錯過的，而活在猶疑與遺憾當中， 這不就是許多「愛情虛無症」的遭遇與心態嗎？
若你此刻已有一位長久相伴的伴侶，不要再隨便三心二意地猶疑了，我們往往不易察覺感情中的一個陷阱，就是「近親生慢侮」，也就是經濟學中的鐵律「邊際效益遞減法則」，跟你在一起越久的人，就越容易麻木與忽視，而新鮮的「際遇」總是那麼動人可愛。
在感情對待中，難免有摩擦與無心的傷害，而且論得罪自己的次數累加起來最多的人，當然是跟我們在一起最久、最親近的人。而新歡呢，又還沒開始有得罪你的機會，再加上他的刻意討好，所以新歡怎麼看怎麼可愛，舊愛怎麼看怎麼討厭。但別忘了，新歡身上總是有不確定的未知數，舊愛身上就是有難得的熟悉感、確定感、信賴感。千萬不要隨便在偶然的「際遇」中迷失了自己，錯放了幸福溫暖的手。
所以蕭伯納的話，是要提醒情人不要太鑽牛角尖於尋覓那唯一，應該把精神用在學會經營幸福的能力上，同時也提醒我們「弱水三千隻取一瓢飲」若有幸遇到了難得的伴侶，就不要再三心二意了，因為我們永遠不知道一生何時會遇到兩萬個其中的幾個，所以要知福惜福、活在當下。
a great piece sent to me by Rita...
Thursday, January 25, 2007
timing? time out...
"timing is always important to a relationship...
actually i do understand why u hold off...
wish u were here!"
it's time out afterall......
actually i do understand why u hold off...
wish u were here!"
it's time out afterall......
Sunday, January 21, 2007
sleep don't weep - damien rice
sleep don't weep
my sweet love
your face it's all wet
and your day was rough
so do what you must do
to find yourself
wear another's shoe
or paint my shelves
there's times that i was broke
and you stood strong
i think i found a place
where i ..
sleep don't weep
my sweet love
your face it's all wet
'cause our days were rough
so do what you must do
to fill that hole
wear another's shoe
to comfort the sole
there's times that i was broke
and you stood strong
i think i found a place
where i feel i will..
sleep don't weep
my sweet love
my face it's all wet
'cause my day was rough
so do what you must do
to find yourself
wear another's shoe
or paint my shelves
there's times that i was broke
and you stood strong
i hope i find a place where i feel i belong
sleep don't weep
my sweet love
my face it's all wet
'cause my day was rough
don't weep
my sweet love
my face is all wet
'cause my days were rough
my sweet love
your face it's all wet
and your day was rough
so do what you must do
to find yourself
wear another's shoe
or paint my shelves
there's times that i was broke
and you stood strong
i think i found a place
where i ..
sleep don't weep
my sweet love
your face it's all wet
'cause our days were rough
so do what you must do
to fill that hole
wear another's shoe
to comfort the sole
there's times that i was broke
and you stood strong
i think i found a place
where i feel i will..
sleep don't weep
my sweet love
my face it's all wet
'cause my day was rough
so do what you must do
to find yourself
wear another's shoe
or paint my shelves
there's times that i was broke
and you stood strong
i hope i find a place where i feel i belong
sleep don't weep
my sweet love
my face it's all wet
'cause my day was rough
don't weep
my sweet love
my face is all wet
'cause my days were rough
Thursday, January 18, 2007
WISDOM FOR LIFE
"Wisdom is supreme; therefore get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understand."
Many of us search long and hard to find the answers to life and how to live it. It can cost time, money, energy or even some unforgettable feeling, but if wisdom really is supreme, it is worth the cost.
Many of us search long and hard to find the answers to life and how to live it. It can cost time, money, energy or even some unforgettable feeling, but if wisdom really is supreme, it is worth the cost.
Tuesday, January 9, 2007
Failure
"Failure is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently."
-- Henry Ford (1863-1947) American Industrialist
-- Henry Ford (1863-1947) American Industrialist
yes, this time...
Monday, January 8, 2007
roller coaster
life sure is like a roller coaster, ups and downs... just as you're going down, so fast, now you're up again...
but... when will it go down again?
but... when will it go down again?
Thursday, January 4, 2007
Wednesday, January 3, 2007
new year, new start...
it's 2007! 2006 went by so fast, though packed with unforgettable events... new year, new start... it's afterall, a new chapter! just believe and you shall find your way. love, and you shall feel your heart. appreciate, and you shall realize your one.
Thursday, December 14, 2006
run aw run
"Our real duty is always found running in the direction of our worthiest desires."
-- Randolph S. Bourne (1886-1918) American Writer
yeah, but where should i run to? may someone shed some light on me? should i be evaluating whether it's worthy or not? anyways, i'll keep walking... i hope one day i can run to my worthy destination...
-- Randolph S. Bourne (1886-1918) American Writer
yeah, but where should i run to? may someone shed some light on me? should i be evaluating whether it's worthy or not? anyways, i'll keep walking... i hope one day i can run to my worthy destination...
Friday, December 8, 2006
Unconditional LOVE
Talk about unconditional love... THIS IS LOVE!
and i got this quote today: "A hero is a man who does what he can." yes, and a hero is a man who does what he can for his love ones, unconditionally.
Tuesday, November 21, 2006
hopes...
Great hopes make great men.
-- Thomas Fuller (1608-1661) English Historian
i still hv hopes... yes i'll be waiting, cos no places worth going are easy paths!
-- Thomas Fuller (1608-1661) English Historian
i still hv hopes... yes i'll be waiting, cos no places worth going are easy paths!
Tuesday, November 7, 2006
miracle
when you think of it, to be alive, to be able to see, to walk, to talk, to feel, to smell, to listen, to love, to be hurt, to work, to hate, to be found, to shout, to enjoy, to be bored, to triumph, to conquer, to fear, to cry, to eat, to drink, to play, to ride, to travel, to fly, to dream, to wish, to quer, to write, to read, to share, to sing, to team, to bond, to fight, to give, to take, to sleep, to hug, to kiss, to laugh, to avoid, to be embarrassed, to be curious, to seek, to hide, to lie, to dance, to move, to buy, to wear, to understand, to get confused, to figure out, to create, to destroy, to fix, to keep, to promise, to hold on, to give up, to last, to shorten, to prolong, to neglect, to appreciate, to live for, to die for, ...
... it's all a miracle.
... it's all a miracle.
Thursday, September 28, 2006
4ever
love
truest
thus far
extend
understand
no intention
sharing
treasure
most important
immense myself
wrong
comfort you
failed
can't
sadness
joy
believe
devote
care
think
miss
love
spend
ready
focus
wonderful time
coming future
4ever
xx
Wednesday, September 6, 2006
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